I’m having a hard time choosing a babysitter.

A good babysitter is a playful and creative person, responsible and full of common sense, says psychoanalyst Sylviane Giampino. Once reassured about her skills, parents must trust her so that she can develop all her qualities.

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The start of the school year is approaching and, with it, the need to find a babysitter, who is both friendly and trustworthy. What are the criteria to remember, knowing that the choice may be limited, and that perfection does not exist? Beyond the classic recommendations (friends, previous employers), it is important that the person corresponds to the style of the family – rational, curious, fanciful… – to better integrate into it and develop all its qualities. Parents will prefer “motherly” and soothing dispositions for a toddler, a real taste for play and awakening for an older child, supplemented by pedagogical skills to supervise homework from the first grade onwards.

“Regardless of the child’s age, a good babysitter is above all someone who is playful, affectionate and creative,” notes psychoanalyst Sylviane Giampino. It must also be responsible, sensible and reliable, to promote the development of secure bonds and avoid a turn over that would be detrimental to the child’s stability. “Once their choice has been made, parents will gradually adapt so that everyone can learn to appreciate themselves and find their rightful place. “She is neither a girlfriend, nor a domestic worker, nor a bis parent,” says the psychoanalyst. It is up to parents to dictate their instructions – rules, activities, meals, bedtime… It is up to them to ensure that they are respected in a flexible manner, without imposing or punishing. »

In the early stages, they will ensure that the relationship is established. A knowing smile, from this point of view, says as much as words. Once reassured, they will give him the freedom to offer what they may not be able to offer: the practice of activities they do not like – soccer, colouring… -, the discovery of another culture, other relational modes. The child’s world will be enriched at the cost of their trust and respect for this otherness.

Childcare: these applications that make life easier for parents

Several sites and applications offer to help parents who are struggling to find a babysitter or nanny for their children.

In 2018, prices rose by 2.5% compared to last year, according to a study by the Yoopies platform on Tuesday lunchtime. But parents also sometimes struggle to find a nanny to take care of their children. To facilitate the connection between the two, and to prevent the search for a childminder from becoming a puzzle, sites and applications have been developed in recent years to help parents. Europe 1 has selected some of them.

Specialized sites and applications

  • Yoopies

Before publishing studies on the cost of childcare, the Yoopies platform aims first of all to help parents find a childcare assistant or a babysitter to provide childcare at home. One of the two parents can register on the platform directly via his smartphone and enter several search criteria: the type of care desired (nursery assistant, babysitting…), the days and period, the number of children… “The criteria grid is extremely precise,” Yoopies told Europe 1. “You can also look for diplomas or the type of pedagogy developed by the childminder for example. The application then searches its database for available people and sends proposals to parents. It is then possible to exchange directly with the nanny on the integrated messaging system and pay her via the application.

Since the beginning of the 2018 school year, the connection between parents and childminders has been free of charge. However, the platform recovers commissions on the online booking service if the parent wishes to use it. On the other hand, it is not free to connect parents and babysitters (who go to the parents’ home) (from 12.90 euros to 24.90 euros per month).

  • Bsit

The same principle applies to Bsit. This platform (site and application) connects parents and nannies. As a parent, you complete an application and babysitters apply if they are available. Payments are made directly to the app. So no stress to get cash. On Bsit, everything happens a lot thanks to the recommendations of your neighbours, friends, colleagues or family. The system is based on trust.

Many other applications offer a link between parents and babysitter. This is the case of Happysitters, Babysittor, Kidsitter or SOS KID 02.

  • My fairy godmother, to find a night nanny.

Sites dedicated exclusively to young parents, those who have just had a baby and who dream of being able to spend a full night, also exist. This is the case with My Good Fairy. It connects parents with a childcare auxiliary or nurse, who goes to their home to manage the baby, for a coquettish rate of 132 euros per night.

  • Staggered nanny, for night or weekend workers

The offbeat nanny site, for its part, allows parents who work staggered hours to find the rare gem, either early in the morning or late in the evening, or at night or on weekends. Again, they must register, and indicate criteria to access babysitter or childminder profiles. The price varies according to the number of profiles you want to consult: from 5 euros for 5 profiles, to 20 euros for 20 profiles.

As for the rate paid by parents to the nanny, it varies. “The staggered schedules place an additional burden on the nanny, so it is not uncommon for rates to be higher. But it is above all a negotiation between the childminder and the parents according to the type of contract, the number of hours per month, the regularity of the hours,” Angela Jotic, the founder of the platform, told Europe 1. “If the number of hours is limited, childminders may tend to increase their rates up to 5 euros per hour, for example, to make financial sense of it. In Paris, prices are also higher because the offer is lower than in the region. “We have a lot of parents in demand and not enough childminders,” says Angela Jotic.

Mutual assistance between parents

  • A child’s play

In order to make finding a babysitter a child’s play, Johanna Del Campo from Nîmes launched the application “Un jeu d’enfant” in November 2017, this time focusing on helping parents help each other. Available on Android and IOS, the application, free of charge, allows parents to organize themselves among themselves to have their sons or daughters looked after in order to avoid entrusting them to a stranger. There’s no question here of exchanging childcare hours between overwhelmed parents: “It’s not bartering, it’s service,” the founder explained on Europe 1 last March. “We register for free and then ask the people we know – from the school, from a group of shared activities or others – who is available,” the founder said in April in Le Parisien.

  • Facebook groups “Happy Mommies”,”Mums in…”

In the same vein, Facebook groups have flourished in recent years to help parents: Les petites poitevines, Les petites poitevines, les autres nantaises, Mums in Bois-Colombes… These groups, which are closed and generally organized by neighbourhood, city or region, allow parents to post ads or share contacts and other good tips. “We write on the group that we are looking for a babysitter for this evening and either an interested person can answer us directly, or parents can recommend this or that person,” explains Marie-Laure, a mother who called on the Au bonheur des mamans group in the 15th arrondissement twice to have her little boy looked after. “And if I have any doubts, I’ll check the baby sitter’s Facebook profile,” she adds. “It’s always more reassuring.”

What’s the difference between nanny, nanny and babysitter?

  • The childminder takes care of the children at home. To exercise this profession, she must have an approval from the departmental services of the PMI.
  • The nanny takes care of the children at home or at the parents’ home. She does not have a specific diploma.
  • The babysitter, intervenes in more specific situations and has no particular diploma. She comes to look after the child or children at the family’s home.